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My Story

Hello everyone! My name is Yao Sern, and I am 14 years old. I am currently studying in Year 10 at BSKL. I have decided to organise this fundraiser for Hospis Malaysia because I believe they are supporting a very noble cause. Starting a fundraiser for Hospis Malaysia was not something I ever imagined I would do, but after losing my father, it felt like the right way to honour his memory. I am fortunate to be healthy and have the privilege of pursuing my wishes and dreams, but I am aware that not everyone is so lucky. Having witnessed palliative care up close, I understand how much it costs and the strain it places on families. Thankfully, my family was wealthy enough to afford my father's equipment, medication, and nurses, but many are not so fortunate. Hospis Malaysia exists to support families like these, providing care without asking for any payment, relying solely on donations. Their goal is to deliver the best possible palliative care and improve the quality of life for both their patients and their families. I am confident that together, we can contribute to this mission and offer help to those who need it most!


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I will be blogging and why!

Hello everyone!!! 

During the next 2 months I will be blogging on this website in which I will be posting a story/memory of my father every alternate day. The reason I have chosen to do this blog is on a personal note, I want this project to be a keepsake for me to share the memories of my father and to do something to honour him. On another note, I am also doing this for others to see who my father was and remember him for all the lasting impressions that he has made on them. I hope you all enjoy reading it as much as I enjoyed writing it !

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Blog 1: The dreadful day it all happened …

It was a casual day and I was going home from school, exhausted after basketball practice. I was dreading having to go for my swimming class. I entered the house to the usual silence as my father would often be sleeping in his room after his work. Dashing towards the fridge to gobble down anything I could eat, I saw my mother heading upstairs.

I was nibbling on some macarons that I found in the fridge until I heard a glass shattering scream from upstairs. Scared and slightly curious, I rushed upstairs to see what the commotion was about. Outside my father’s room there was an appalling stench. I hesitated to open the door but eventually did, the sight I saw was horrifying, disgusting and something I would never want to see again.

There were 3 main things that changed in the room that day. First, a revolting trail of vomit across the marble floor. That trail led back to my father’s mouth as he laid completely still on the bed. Second , beside him my mom was sitting there with her face showing all sorts of emotions - distraught, confusion and sadness. She was frantically calling someone on the phone. Third, I just stood there confused about what was going on. After that everything went by as a blur image. Relatives and ambulances came to take him away. Since I was young I did not understand the gravity of the situation and was instead happy that I did not need to go for my swimming practice… something that I regret heavily.

*** look out for my next story on 28 September 2024

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Special Thanks 


I want to express my heartfelt thanks for your generous donation to my fundraising. Your contribution is incredibly meaningful to me, and it will have a lasting impact on the success of this effort. I’m so grateful for your support and encouragement as I work towards my goal. Your kindness and generosity has inspired me, and I couldn’t be more appreciative. Thank you for making a difference and standing with me! Even though I have hit my target I have decided to set a new mental goal for myself and hope to achieve it too!!

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Blog 2: Lying to my mother…both of us.


Before I start this story I would like to state that we do not condone any form of lying… Lying is bad, actually very bad because it undermines trust, damages relationships, and can lead to harmful consequences to both parties. However, in this story my father and I were lying to go have fun and did not hurt anyone - except my mother’s pride.

For me, every Saturday was a very special day. Saturday was the only day that my father did not work and so he would follow me to “squash practices”. Supposedly, “squash training” is where I would work hard to exercise and improve at squash.  

Every Saturday morning, I would wake up at 7 o'clock to get ready. I would grab my squash gear and get in the car to head for squash. My father would be the one to send me as my mother was always not free.

However, there was never a “squash practice” on Saturdays only Fridays and Sundays. So, where did I go? My father would bring me to our favourite restaurant called “Malabar”. It was a typical mamak shop near our housing area and both of loved to eat there. Sadly, it is now closed. During the 2 hours there my father and I would be eating some delicious nasi lemak, roti canai, chicken rice and many other dishes. It even reached a point where we had tried every dish on the menu which did not have beef due to our religion. These 2 hours were for ours, for us to unwind and we would talk about anything that came to mind like sports, games and school. After the 2 hours we would head home pretending to my mother that we were working and training super hard.

So one Saturday morning was no different. My father and I were casually eating at the mamak shop as usual, while chatting about Arsenal (the football team that we supported), when suddenly he stopped mid-sentence. His face went pale and he trembled in fear. From behind I felt a cold, sharp gaze piercing through me. I had a guess on who was standing behind me and when I turned my head….I saw my Mom. After that fiasco, it was safe to say that my father and I stayed home on Saturdays. However, to this day I would go back to this memory and laugh to myself. How ridiculous it was and how both dad and I spent quality time - something I will treasure.

***look out for my next story on 30/9/2024

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Blog 3: My hero!

We were going to the beach and I was so excited. It was my first time experiencing the beach. The car ride there was so chaotic, my sister and I were fighting in the back seat over who got the spongebob themed towel, my mother was stressed as she left her sunscreen at home (it was actually in my bag) and my father was on a work call begging us to keep quiet. I had mixed feelings: happy to explore new things, scared that it may be a negative experience and tired from not being able to sleep the night before. To put us all at ease, my father began playing music on the radio and we were jamming out to old classics like Lincoln Park or the Backstreet boys. We were ecstatic!

 

We had decided to go early in the morning to avoid the crowd and to get a good spot on the beach. We reached the beach and were welcomed to the beautiful sight of the sunrise, the sounds of the gawking seagulls and the smell of fresh breeze. We found the perfect spot on the beach and began applying the sunscreen. After putting on our swimsuits, there was only one thing left to do. Enjoy!

There were a multitude of options that we could pick from such as fishing, swimming or even making sandcastle. We quickly chose to build sandcastles and got carried away as we completely covered my father with sand. It was kind of creepy seeing only his head sticking out of the sand. After that we decided to go swimming to wash away the sand, the sea was super cool and refreshing, the waves were swaying us up and down like a rollercoaster. However, as a 5 year old I wandered a bit too far away from the beach and got swept away. I could no longer touch the seabed and was being dragged by the tides, slowly submerging under water and beginning to drown. Thankfully, my father heroically fought against the harsh waves and saved me. What a hero!!!

In this near death experience I had learned 2 main things. The first thing that I learned is that I should not go too deep into the sea as I may never be able to get back. Secondly, I learned how brave my father was. It was one of the first memories that I have of my father and it will always have a special place in my heart. Without my father being there that day I will not be around today writing about it. He saved me!


***look out for my next story on 2/10/2024

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Blog 4: The time we actually went for squash practice!

My father absolutely loved to play sports, mainly rackets sports such as squash, table tennis and badminton. However, his favourite and best sport was squash. Due to this hobby he decided to make me follow in his footsteps and also play squash.


I still remember the first day that he introduced me to squash and to teach me. It was a bright sunny morning and my father brought me to his favourite club called KGNS to play squash. He had been a member of this club for the past 5 years, consistently going every week. At first, I had no clue what squash was, all I knew was that it was a racket sport which my father adored. During the car ride there he talked and talked about everything regarding the sport. The rules, the equipment and the best players. It was too much for my little brain to comprehend. I did not understand anything yet, but once I got into the squash court and started playing, it was simply amazing.


After warming up, we began playing, and that’s when things really got interesting. My dad kept it light, letting me get comfortable with the pace while offering tips on how to improve my shots. He showed me how to position myself on the court and in time my swings got better, while keeping the game fun and competitive. Every time I missed tde ball, he’d give me a quick pointer, and whenever I made a good shot, he'd give an encouraging nod. It felt like a real bonding experience, and each time we played, I could feel myself getting a little better, thanks to his guidance.


After those early games with my dad, I got hooked on squash and continued playing regularly. I practised as often as I could, focusing on the little tips he has given me—like improving my footwork and anticipating where the ball would go. As I played more, my reflexes sharpened, and I started to understand the strategy behind the game. I also worked on my endurance, which made a huge difference in longer rallies. Over time, I could feel myself getting faster and more confident on the court, hitting cleaner shots and reacting quicker. Each session felt like progress, and it became a sport I genuinely enjoyed and looked forward to mastering it.


To this day I still play squash and enjoy it just as much as when we first started. Every time I step onto the court, it feels like a way of staying connected to him. The lessons he taught me and the memories of our games together are always in the back of my mind. Playing squash has become more than just a sport for me—it's a reminder of those special moments we shared, and I feel like I’m keeping a part of him alive every time I play.


*** look out for my next story on 4/10/2024

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Blog 5: My Personal Trampoline... My Dad!

Before we start this story, just know I was 5 years old and did no harm to my father.

Every morning started the same way for me, and it was always the highlight of my day. The moment I woke up, I knew exactly what I wanted to do: head straight to my dad’s room and jump on his big, soft tummy. I slipped out of bed and tiptoed down the hallway, trying to be quiet, even though we both knew what was coming. I peeked into his room, and there he was, fast asleep. His belly rose and fell like a giant balloon, the perfect landing spot just waiting for me.

I snuck closer, barely holding in my excitement, and then I jumped. I landed right on his round belly, and it jiggled under me, soft like a cushion. He woke up with a familiar groan, not even surprised anymore. He was used to this—it was our little morning ritual.

His big belly was the best. It was like bouncing on the softest trampoline, and since I was skinny and light then, it felt like I was floating every time I landed. There was something about it that just made me smile, knowing I could start the day like this. He never really complained, not sure why. Sure, he pretended to be grumpy about it, but deep down, I knew he loved it as much as I did. It was our way of sharing a moment of laughter and joy before the day officially began. I’d bounce a few more times before finally rolling off, both of us chuckling.

The mornings felt special because of this. It wasn’t just about jumping on his belly; it was the connection we shared in those quiet, playful moments. This simple routine brought us closer, and it made the start of every day feel just a little bit brighter.

Look out for my next blog on 6/10/2024!


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Blog 6:The Field of Dreams

My love for football began in the backyard, with a slightly deflated ball, a patchy lawn, and my father. He wasn’t a professional footballer, but to me, he was everything. His passion for the game, especially for Arsenal, was contagious. Through him, I learned not just to play, but to feel the game deeply.

Every weekend, we’d sit together to watch Arsenal. Coffee for him, juice for me. It didn’t matter if the team was soaring or struggling; we watched every moment with the same enthusiasm. He would explain the tactics, the brilliance of the players, and why Arsenal stood for something greater than football alone. Over the years, I came to understand the depth of his connection to the club and how much it meant to him.

After the matches, we’d head to the park, kicking the ball around like the players we had just watched. My dad would try to imitate the finesse of Arsenal legends, and I’d do my best to follow his lead. Neither of us cared if we got it right; it was the joy of being together that made those moments feel perfect.

As time went on and I got older, our trips to the park became less frequent. Life got in the way. But when we did watch or play, it felt like nothing had changed. His stories about Arsenal’s glory days, about the players he admired, always brought me back to the simple love for the game that he instilled in me.

Then, unexpectedly, he passed away.

Losing him was like losing a part of my world. For a while, I couldn’t even bring myself to watch Arsenal. The empty space beside me made every match feel heavier. His old boots sat unused, a quiet reminder of the bond we had shared. I missed him more than words could say.

Over time, I found my way back to football. Watching Arsenal again felt like reconnecting with him, like he was still there with me in every goal, every tackle, every celebration. Though he’s no longer by my side, his love for the game lives on in me.

***look out for my next story on the 8/10/2024


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Blog 7:AH BOYS TO MEN!

Every time a new “Ah Boys to Men” movie was announced, dad and I felt a rush of excitement. It was as if something special was being added to our lives, something that became our own little tradition. The first time we watched the original film, it was simply fun—a comedy about National Service in Singapore, full of laughs and exaggerated scenarios. But for us, it was much more. The movie opened a door to conversations about my dad’s past, and over time, it became a way for us to connect.

As soon as the second movie was announced, we eagerly looked forward to it. The anticipation was almost tangible, and we marked the release date on our calendars. When the day finally arrived, we made an event of it—snacks in hand, ready to dive back into the world of boot camp chaos and friendships. Watching those characters go through their struggles and triumphs became a shared experience that deepened our bond. The humour on screen coupled with our inside jokes and stories, made each viewing even more special.

With every new film in the series, our excitement only grew. The characters became familiar, almost like old friends, and we were always curious to see how their stories would evolve. By the time the third and fourth instalments were released, watching “Ah Boys to Men” had become one of the highlights of the year for us. We would sit together, immersed in the humour and the lessons woven into the film, feeling connected not just to the story, but to each other.

It wasn’t just the movies that excited us—it was the opportunity to share those moments. The films became a backdrop to our conversations about life, family, and the experiences that shape us. Every movie felt like a chapter in our relationship, adding layers of understanding between us. We didn’t need to say much. Our laughter, the shared glances during certain scenes, and the comfortable silence afterward said it all.

Watching those movies together year after year became a tradition that I still hold dear, even now. Although Dad is gone, I will continue the “ritual”, knowing that those films will always carry the memories we created.

***look out for my next story on 10/10/2024

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Blog 8: A Jedi’s Journey


Standing in front of the Jedi Temple in Hong Kong Disneyland, lightsaber in hand, I felt a mix of excitement and nostalgia. The kids around me buzzed with energy, eager to start their Jedi training. For them, it was just a fun adventure. For me, it was a moment to recreate my countless memories with my dad.


Star Wars has always been our thing. My dad introduced me to the galaxy far, far away when I was young, and it became something we shared over the years. From watching the movies to having our own lightsaber battles at home, it felt like we were part of the same journey. He taught me about the Jedi, their struggles, and how anyone could be a hero if they believed in themselves.


Now, there we were, finally training together as Jedi, something we had talked about doing for years.


The Jedi master began the session, guiding us through the basic lightsaber techniques. As I followed, I couldn’t help but remember the times my dad and I pretended to fight like Luke and Vader in our living room. He always let me win, even though he’d make it seem like a real challenge. That same energy was present then, with us standing side by side, just as we had in all those moments before, in our living room.


Swinging the lightsaber, I glanced over at my dad. He was as focused as ever, fully immersed in the experience. It wasn’t just a game for him either—it was a chance to live out a dream, one we had shared for so long.


When the session ended, we lingered for a while, watching the other kids rush off to meet their families. I held my lightsaber close, feeling a quiet satisfaction. We didn’t need to say anything—our bond was always there, just like the Force connecting every Jedi.


As we left the temple, I realized this wasn’t just a fun experience. It was another chapter in our story, one that we would carry with us. The Force was strong between us, and it always would be.


***look out for my next story on 12/10/2024


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Blog 9: Chinese New Year Spirit

Chinese New Year was always a special time in our home. Beyond the festive decorations, the smell of homemade food, and the family gatherings, what I cherished most was the tradition my dad and I shared—the blackjack games that only appeared once a year.

The red packets would pile up on the table, and with them came the cards, shuffled expertly by my dad. For as long as I can remember, the first night of Chinese New Year was reserved for our game. I would sit across from him, the warm glow of lanterns casting shadows across the room, the sounds of relatives in the background fading away as we focused on the deck of cards between us.

Blackjack was his game, and he had been teaching me since I was a kid. Each year, I grew a little better, learning to read the flow of the game and to anticipate his moves. But Dad was always one step ahead. He never let me win easily, though sometimes he’d offer a hint with a knowing glance, a small reminder that I was still learning.

We didn’t play for money. The real stakes were bragging rights that would last until the next New Year. The game wasn’t about competition as much as it was about tradition. Each card dealt, each hand won or lost, felt like a thread connecting us through the years.

There was something magical about the rhythm of our game, the way time seemed to slow down amidst the busyness of the celebrations. No matter how much changed throughout the year, the deck of cards remained constant, and so did our quiet moments together. As the night would draw on, laughter would spill over the table, often from a well-timed bluff or a dramatic bust.

Every year, as the final hand was played and the cards were gathered up, we’d exchange a look that said it all—another year gone, another game played, and the promise of more to come. It wasn’t about who won or lost, but the shared ritual of sitting down, just the two of us, and carrying on a tradition as timeless as the New Year itself.

**look out for my next blog on 14/10/2024

So sorry for the late post today I will upload it sooner next time!


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Blog 10: Pokemon Go!

I remember the first time my father and I played Pokémon Go together. It was a warm, sunny afternoon, the kind of day perfect for a walk. My dad wasn’t much into mobile games, but after seeing me catch Pokémon, he was intrigued enough to try it. We spent some time setting up his profile, selecting a starter, and learning the basics. He ended up with a Bulbasaur, and although he didn’t quite understand its significance, he seemed pleased with his choice.

We set off to the nearby park, our screens alive with activity. There were PokéStops and gyms scattered throughout, and I couldn’t wait to show him how the game worked in the real world. As we walked, Pokémon started popping up—Rattatas, Spearows, and even an Eevee. My dad focused intently on the screen, figuring out how to throw Poké Balls and learning the small mechanics of the game. He had that determined expression he always wore when learning something new, a trait that had carried over from teaching me how to play cards and squash.

Soon, we found ourselves at a gym battle near the park fountain. I showed him the basics of fighting, explaining how to dodge and attack. He listened carefully, and after a few tries, he started getting the hang of it. To my surprise, he won a round, and although it wasn’t a major victory, the look on his face was one of quiet satisfaction. We shared a knowing smile, both enjoying the moment.

After a few hours of walking, catching Pokémon, and spinning PokéStops, we found a bench by the lake and sat down to rest. My dad had caught more Pokémon than expected, and I could tell he was starting to appreciate the game in his own way. It wasn’t just about the Pokémon—it was about the experience, the simple joy of walking together, laughing, and enjoying the fresh air. The game was secondary.

As the sun began to set, casting a warm glow over the park, we decided to head home. On the way, my dad spotted a Pikachu nearby. Determined to catch it, we headed in its direction, ready to end the day with one last catch. It was a small moment, but one that stuck with me. It wasn’t about the game itself—it was about the time spent together, creating memories in the simplest of ways.

**look out for my next blog on 16/10/2024

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Blog 11: Sunlit Mornings- A Slice of Time with Dad

I remember the mornings with my dad, especially those slow, quiet ones where the sun would gently creep into the kitchen, casting soft golden light on the tiled floor. We had a tradition that was as simple as it was precious—starting the day by sharing fruits.

Dad would always be up before me, a habit he picked up from years of early morning routines. By the time I came downstairs, he would be at the kitchen counter, a small cutting board in front of him, slicing up whatever fruit we had in the house. The sound of the knife gently meeting the board became a comforting rhythm, a melody of morning peace.

Bananas or oranges today, he’d ask without looking up, knowing I had a particular fondness for both. There was always something familiar about the way he offered choices, never rushing me to decide, as if this small act of picking the fruit was one of the most important decisions I’d make that day.

I would sit down across from him, watching his practiced hands peel an orange or slice a banana into perfect, even rounds. If we were lucky, there would be mangoes—my dad’s favorite. He’d handle them with care, slicing around the pit, revealing the bright, golden flesh, almost like opening a treasure chest. Best way to start the day, he’d say, every time, as if it was a secret passed down through generations.

We didn’t always talk much in the mornings, but that quiet companionship was enough. Some days, we’d chat about whatever was happening in the world, or he’d tell me stories from when he was younger, growing up in a time when fresh fruit was a luxury. Other days, we just ate in silence, enjoying the simple, refreshing burst of flavor with each bite. It was in those moments I felt most connected to him, not through grand gestures or deep conversations, but through the act of sharing something as simple and essential as fruit.

When we finished, he’d gather up the peels and seeds, his movements deliberate and unhurried, and I’d help clean up. It wasn’t much, but it was our routine, and it became something I came to treasure.

Now, whenever I sit down in the morning and cut into a piece of fruit, I think of him. The taste brings me back to those mornings in the kitchen, the warmth of the sun, the quiet, and the simple joy of starting the day together.

**look out for my next blog on 18/10/2024

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Blog 12: Racing in the park

It was one of those perfect Saturday mornings when the sun hung high in the sky, painting everything with a warm glow. The park was alive with the sounds of laughter, the chirping of birds, and the rustle of leaves in the gentle breeze. My dad and I decided it was the perfect day for a race, a spontaneous idea that filled me with excitement.

Last one to the big oak tree loses, he shouted, his competitive spirit kicking in. I barely had time to process his words before he took off, sprinting across the grassy field. I quickly followed, my heart pounding with adrenaline and laughter. The thrill of racing against my dad, the man who had taught me how to ride a bike and tie my shoe laces, was exhilarating.

As we raced, I could feel the wind rushing past me, a refreshing force that pushed me forward. My dad’s long strides were impressive, but I was determined not to let him win this time. I dug deep, finding a burst of energy as I imagined crossing the finish line first. The big oak tree stood tall in the distance, its branches stretching out like welcoming arms, and it felt like my goal was just within reach.

Come on, keep up, he called back, his voice teasing yet encouraging. I could hear the playful challenge in his tone, and it spurred me on even more. With every step, I could feel the soft earth beneath my feet and the warmth of the sun on my back. The world around us blurred into a tapestry of colors, but all I could focus on was the finish line and my dad ahead of me.

As we neared the oak tree, I pushed myself harder, my legs burning but my spirit soaring. I could see my dad glancing back, a grin on his face that said he was enjoying this as much as I was. With one final burst of energy, I sprinted past him, reaching out to touch the rough bark of the tree before he could.

I won! I exclaimed, panting and exhilarated.

He caught up a moment later, pretending to be out of breath, though I could see the twinkle of pride in his eyes. Well done! I didn’t see that coming, he said, laughing and ruffling my hair.

We leaned against the tree, catching our breath, the victory filling me with joy. In that moment, it didn’t matter who had won or lost. It was about the fun we had racing, the laughter we shared, and the bond that felt even stronger after that simple race.

As we sat beneath the sprawling branches of the oak tree, I couldn’t help but think about how these moments would become cherished memories. They were reminders that life was not just about competition but about the time spent together, the joy in the journey, and the laughter shared along the way. Racing down the park with my dad would forever be one of my favourite memories, a slice of childhood that I would carry with me always.

**look out for my next blog on 20/10/2024

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Blog 13: My dad and mom’s phone

Family vacations are always filled with unexpected events that often become the most memorable take aways of the trip. During our holiday in Bali, one such event involved my dad, my mom’s phone, and a pool. What made the incident particularly amusing was my dad’s confident belief that the phones are waterproof, a statement that would soon be tested in the most unfortunate way.

After a long day of exploring Bali’s stunning temples, we returned to our resort, eager to relax. The inviting pool, surrounded by lush greenery, seemed like the perfect place to unwind. My dad, always excited to embrace the moment, carried our towels and my mom’s phone, ready to enjoy the afternoon. My mom, as she often did, wanted to capture the picturesque scene and asked my dad to take some photos of the surroundings.

With his usual enthusiasm, my dad took the phone, assured of its supposedly waterproof feature. He moved closer to the pool, attempting to get the perfect angle of the crystal-clear water. However, as fate would have it, the phone slipped from his hand and fell directly into the pool, sinking slowly to the bottom.

For a few seconds, we all stood frozen, watching the phone disappear into the water. My dad’s confidence quickly faded as he realized what had just happened. His expression shifted from certainty to panic as he dived into the pool to retrieve the phone, hoping that the waterproof claim would hold true. Unfortunately, once he retrieved it, it became clear that the phone had not survived its plunge into the water. The screen was unresponsive, and the device was beyond repair.

Despite the initial frustration, my mom handled the situation with surprising calmness. Rather than being upset, she simply accepted the loss of her phone, knowing that it could be replaced. My dad, on the other hand, couldn’t stop apologizing, admitting that he might have overestimated the phone’s capabilities.

As the day went on, the mood lightened, and we began to find humor in the situation. My dad’s misplaced confidence became a running joke for the remainder of the trip, turning a moment of stress into a shared family laugh. Even though my mom’s phone was lost, the memory of that day stands out as one of the highlights of our Bali vacation. It became a reminder that even when things don’t go according to plan, those unplanned moments are often the ones we treasure the most.

**look out for my next blog on 22/10/2024

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Blog 14: Taiwan's hotel arcade

One summer, my dad and I travelled to Taiwan for a family vacation. It was one of those trips filled with exploring new places, but the part I remember most vividly wasn’t some grand temple or famous landmark. It was a simple evening spent together in the hotel arcade, an unexpected adventure that turned into one of my favourite memories with him.

After a long day of sightseeing, we were back at the hotel, tired but still restless. The hotel had an arcade downstairs, and as soon as my dad spotted it, his eyes lit up. He’d always been a kid at heart, and when he suggested we check it out, I could tell he was just as excited as I was.

The arcade was full of neon lights and the hum of machines buzzing and flashing. One of the first things we noticed were these big, colourful cotton candy machines. I’d never seen anything like them before. My dad, with his usual enthusiasm, walked over to one and inserted some coins. The machine whirred to life, and before we knew it, a cloud of fluffy, pastel coloured cotton candy started forming. We laughed as the machine spun and spun, making a sugary masterpiece that we split between us, each bite dissolving in our mouths as we wandered deeper into the arcade.

Then, we stumbled upon the foosball table. My dad immediately suggested we give it a try. I had never played before, so he took the opportunity to teach me. At first, it was all clumsy mistakes. I had no idea how to control the rods or get the tiny soccer ball into the goal. My dad patiently explained how to twist my wrists just right to make the little players kick the ball with precision. After a few rounds, I started to get the hang of it, and soon, the competitive streak in both of us kicked in. We were shouting and laughing, each trying to outdo the other. My dad, of course, won most of the games, but I managed to sneak in a victory or two, which I proudly celebrated.

Next, we moved on to the pool table. My dad loved pool and had played casually with friends when he was younger. This time, it was his turn to shine. He carefully showed me how to hold the cue stick and line up shots. The first few tries were tough, either I’d hit the ball too hard, sending it flying off the table, or I’d barely tap it, watching as the ball rolled only a few inches. But with every shot, my dad gave gentle pointers, encouraging me to keep trying. Soon enough, I was making shots with more confidence, even sinking a few in a row. It wasn’t just about the game though it was about the way my dad and I communicated without saying much, the way we laughed off my mistakes and cheered when things went right.

After the pool game, we spent time just wandering around the arcade, trying out different machines, racing games, basketball hoops, and claw machines. None of the games we played that night were particularly special or grand, but what made that evening unforgettable was the shared experience. It was just us, lost in our own little world of arcade games, surrounded by neon lights and the joyful noise of a summer night in Taiwan.

As the night wound down, we made our way back to the hotel room, cotton candy still stuck to our fingers, and a couple of small arcade prizes in hand. I remember lying in bed, tired but happy, thinking about how lucky I was to have had that evening with my dad. It wasn’t something that had been planned or even something I thought would stand out in the trip, but it did. That arcade night became one of my favorite memories, not because of the games we played, but because of the time we spent together.

Looking back, that simple night in a hotel arcade encapsulates so much of what my dad was like full of energy, always finding ways to make the ordinary feel extraordinary, and always making time for moments that mattered. It wasn’t the grand landmarks or the famous sights that made that trip special. It was the time we spent, the laughter we shared, and the joy in just being together.

**look out for my next blog on 24/10/2024

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Blog 15: Learning to skid rocks!

One of my favorite childhood memories with my dad took place on the shores of a quiet lake where he taught me how to skip rocks. It was an unplanned moment during a family camping trip, something that happened naturally, but it stayed with me for years. We had wandered away from the campsite to explore, enjoying the fresh air and peaceful surroundings. As we walked along the shoreline, my dad bent down, picked up a flat stone, and flicked his wrist, sending it skimming across the surface of the water. It was mesmerizing to see the stone bounce effortlessly before sinking.

Watching him, I was instantly fascinated and wanted to try it myself. I had never done anything like that before and was eager to learn. My dad was always patient, especially when it came to teaching me something new. He showed me how to choose the right kind of rock, flat, smooth, and round and explained that the key was in the angle of the throw and the flick of the wrist. I listened intently, eager to give it a shot.


The first time I threw the stone, it splashed into the water without skipping, disappearing beneath the surface. I felt a bit frustrated but was determined to get it right. We continued searching for more rocks, experimenting with different shapes and sizes. Each throw got a little better as I started to understand the balance between technique and timing. I finally managed to get the rock to skip once, and a small surge of excitement ran through me.

As the day went on, my skips improved, and I could occasionally manage two or even three bounces before the rock sank. My dad watched proudly as I kept trying, and each small success felt like an huge achievement. By the end of the afternoon, I had learned not only how to skip rocks but also the joy of patience and persistence. It wasn’t about how many times the rock skipped, but about enjoying the process of getting better.

The quiet lake, the sound of the stones hitting the water, and the golden light of the setting sun made it feel like a perfect moment. We weren’t in a rush, and there was no pressure. It was just me and my dad, spending time together in nature, enjoying a simple activity that turned into something much more meaningful.

To this day, whenever I’m near a lake or river, I can’t resist picking up a stone and giving it a toss. The memory of that day by the lake with my dad always comes flooding back. It wasn’t just about learning a skill, it was about bonding, patience, and finding joy in life’s small moments.

**look out for my next blog on 26/10/2024

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Blog 16: The Milk Divide

Growing up, my dad and I shared a quirky bond that revolved around something simple—our love for milk. It wasn’t just a drink for us; it became a daily ritual. Every morning, without fail, Dad and I would sit at the kitchen table with tall glasses of cold milk. We’d raise our glasses in a playful toast, grinning like we were part of some exclusive club. The taste was always the same, creamy and refreshing but what made it special was the company.

During these milk moments, we would talk about everything, from serious topics like school and work to lighthearted conversations about football or weekend plans. It wasn’t just a habit; it became our way of connecting, a morning check-in that set the tone for the day. Milk, to us, wasn’t just a drink. It symbolized something constant, a shared experience that anchored our relationship.

Then there was my sister, who never quite understood our milk obsession. While Dad and I drank our milk with enthusiasm, she would sit across from us, clearly unimpressed, pushing her glass of untouched milk far away. She couldn’t comprehend how we could enjoy something she found so unappealing.

Despite our efforts to convert her into a fellow milk lover, my sister remained unconvinced. She always opted for juice or water, anything but milk. Dad, ever the teaser, never missed an opportunity to poke fun at her for her refusal to join our ritual. But my sister was resolute, rolling her eyes at our enthusiasm, steadfast in her choice to avoid milk.

Over time, it became a family joke. Every morning, as Dad poured our milk, he would pretend to offer a glass to my sister, fully aware that she would turn it down. She would play along with an exaggerated refusal, and we’d all end up laughing. This dynamic added a layer of fun to the mornings, Dad and I, the milk lovers, and my sister, the milk rebel.

As the years passed, our routines changed, and breakfast traditions evolved. Yet, even now, whenever I pour myself a glass of milk, I’m transported back to those mornings at the kitchen table. It reminds me of how something as simple as a drink could create such meaningful memories, binding us together in a way that felt both ordinary and extraordinary.

**look out for my next story on 28/10/2024

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Blog 17: The 100 PLUS tradition

Every Saturday, after a solid hour on the squash court, my dad and I would follow the same ritual. Squash had become “our thing,” a tradition we didn’t need to discuss or plan. He was the one who taught me how to play, patiently correcting my stances, encouraging me to give my best. I’d run around, lunging and diving for shots, while he would playfully dodge around, making me work for every rally. By the end, my legs would ache, and sweat would be dripping from my hair. But I knew that a cold reward awaited outside.

The squash center had this old vending machine just beyond the entrance, wedged between the restrooms and a narrow hallway. We would wander over, dad fishing out coins from his pocket while I leaned against the machine, peering through the glass. There was a lineup of cold drinks, but I only ever had eyes for the 100 Plus. It was our silent tradition – he never even asked me what I wanted. I always knew what he would choose too: a bottle of water, but only after he sneaked a sip from mine.

He handed me the coins, letting me be the one to punch in the numbers. The clink of coins dropping into the slot felt like a tiny ritual of its own, and the satisfying whirring noise as the machine processing my choice was a sweet reminder that our game was done. Then, with a final thud, out came the 100 Plus can. I would pick it up, icy cold against my warm hands, and pop it open. The hiss of carbonation felt like a reward in itself.

We would find a bench nearby, our usual spot under a shaded tree. I take that first sip, feeling the coldness spread through me, the bubbles making my nose tingle. He watched me, a smile tugging at the corner of his mouth, before asking, “Mind if I have a sip?” It was part of the tradition, and though he pretended he wasn’t a fan, I knew he liked it just as much as I did. We would sit together, talking about the game or our plans for the week, as if the squash court battles, the tired muscles, and that one can of 100 Plus were the ingredients of some sacred ritual. For me, those moments were worth more than any win or score – they were the real prize at the end of each game.

**look out for my next blog on 30/10/2024

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Blog 18: Revive vs 100 PLUS: Switching Sides

It was a hot Sunday afternoon, and after a long soccer match, my friend handed me a bottle of Revive. The cold, blue bottle glistened in his hand as he insisted I give it a try. I hesitated; my loyalty was to 100 Plus, a brand associated with countless squash games and post-match moments with my dad. But curiosity got the best of me, and I took a sip.

The taste surprised me. It was refreshing and tangy, a bit smoother than the fizzy, familiar taste of 100 Plus. I took another gulp, savoring the chill as it cut through the heat. There was something about it that felt instantly satisfying, almost… better. Jay, watching me closely, grinned knowingly, proud to have converted me. But as we packed up and headed home, a strange feeling of guilt began to creep in. This new drink somehow felt like a betrayal of the small tradition my dad and I had shared after each game.

Later that evening, as I sat quietly during dinner, my dad noticed my distracted expression. I finally admitted that I had tried Revive and, to my surprise, enjoyed it more than 100 Plus. I expected him to laugh or at least be a little disappointed, but he simply nodded with a smile, unfazed. It dawned on me then that maybe the drink itself didn’t matter as much as I had thought. We could be sharing any drink, really; what mattered was the time spent together and the memories built.

The next time we played squash, I brought along a bottle of Revive, hesitant yet hopeful. After the game, I handed it to him, and he took a sip without hesitation, nodding in approval. Somehow, even with this new drink, it still felt like tradition. It wasn’t the brand or the taste but the small, unspoken bond of those post-game moments that held all the meaning. And as we sat there, catching our breath and sipping Revive, I realized that some things go beyond the brands we choose, rooted in memories and time spent together

**look out for my next blog on 2/11/2024

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Blog 19: Disgusting Japanese Onsen

When my dad and I booked our Onsen visit in Japan, we imagined peaceful, rejuvenating moments in warm, natural springs, bonding in the tranquil beauty of Japanese tradition. What we actually experienced was anything but that.

Things felt off the moment we stepped into the Onsen lobby. The place was rundown, with peeling walls and an odd smell that didn’t exactly scream “relaxation.” My dad tried to laugh it off, chalking it up to “authentic rustic charm.” But even his optimistic grin faded as we walked through the dimly lit hallway, where an eerie flickering light barely kept the space lit.

In the changing room, we both realized this might be a mistake. The floor was damp and sticky, scattered with dark stains that made us feel uncomfortable walking around barefoot. A lone, weak fan was trying to fight the heavy, humid air, but it was clearly a losing battle. Both of us exchanged a look—maybe we should just leave? But we had come all this way, and we hoped the baths themselves would make up for the less-than-perfect surroundings.

Finally, we entered the outdoor bath, but our disappointment only deepened. The water was murky, and instead of a refreshing mineral smell, an unpleasant odor hung heavily in the air. The place was packed with other visitors talking loudly, making it feel more like a chaotic pool party than a serene spa. My dad and I tried to ignore the mess, hoping to relax, but the lukewarm water and the constant noise quickly shattered any hope of a peaceful soak.

We glanced around, hoping to spot someone from the management who might address the situation, but they seemed absent or unwilling to help. My dad gave me a half-smile and muttered, “Well, this is a first.” We lasted maybe ten minutes before we both got up, silently agreeing it was time to go. The changing room felt even worse on the way out, and we both rushed to get dressed.

Once we left, we couldn’t help but laugh—sometimes, things just go wrong no matter how hard you plan. It’s now a running joke between us, but also a reminder that not all travel dreams turn out as expected. Next time, we’ll make sure to read the reviews a bit more carefully!

**look out for my next blog on the 4/11/24

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Blog 20:A Sacred Moment: Honoring a Monk's Legacy in a Thai Temple


In the rich cultural landscape of Thailand, temples stand as symbols of spirituality, history, and devotion. A few years back, my dad and I visited one such temple and encountered an experience that felt both sacred and profoundly moving. In the heart of the temple grounds stood a statue of a revered monk, placed to honor his memory after he had passed away. This statue became the focal point of our visit, offering us a unique window into Thai spiritual beliefs and a moment of shared reflection.

Upon entering the temple, we were enveloped by the serene ambiance, with the faint scent of incense and the soft, rhythmic chimes of bells creating an atmosphere of peace. The architecture was awe-inspiring—ornate pillars, golden carvings, and vibrant murals celebrating Buddhist teachings. Among these captivating sights, the monk’s statue seemed humble but held an undeniable presence. His image was serene, eyes gently closed, with hands poised in a gesture of peace.

We learned that this statue was more than a tribute; it embodied the respect and admiration the community felt for a monk who had dedicated his life to teaching and guiding others. His wisdom and compassion resonated deeply with the people even after his passing. This touched us, emphasizing the universal values of kindness and honoring those who selflessly contribute to society.

In a quiet moment, my dad and I knelt before the statue to offer a prayer. Although we were not from this community, it felt meaningful to pause and show respect for a person who had positively impacted so many lives. This moment of shared silence reminded us of the power of empathy and the common ground that connects people, regardless of their backgrounds or beliefs.

Reflecting on this experience, I felt a newfound appreciation for the ways communities honor those who embody wisdom and compassion. For my dad and me, it was also a bonding moment, reinforcing the values we hold dear—respect for others’ beliefs and appreciation for those who lead lives of service.

Our visit to this temple was more than a part of our travels; it was a lesson in humility and respect, reminding us of the strength of community and the importance of honoring lives dedicated to selfless service.

**look out for my next blog on 6/11/2024

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Blog 21: The Boxer Bond

Growing up, my dad and I had an unwritten rule: once we were home and the day’s demands faded, it was time to switch into relaxation mode. For us, that meant one thing: boxers and sleeveless shirts. No fancy loungewear or sweatpants—just a pair of comfortable boxers, a simple top, and the feeling of pure, cozy freedom.

It started as something I copied from him. I remember walking into the living room as a kid, seeing my dad sprawled out on the sofa in his mismatched, brightly patterned boxers and a plain top, completely at ease. He would pat the seat beside him, inviting me to join him, and I would settle in, mimicking his relaxed style. I was young—probably around six or seven—and I already wanted to be just like him, right down to our “home uniform.”

Over the years, this became a tradition we shared without ever needing to discuss it. Lazy Saturdays or quiet evenings would find us both in our signature outfits, slouched on the couch, watching football or catching an old movie. This boxer-and-sleeveless routine grew into a symbol of our bond. It wasn’t about what we watched or talked about; it was about the time spent unwinding together. Sometimes, we would cheer on his favourite team, Arsenal, or pull out a deck of cards for a quick game, enjoying each other’s company.

As I grew older, I realized how much I cherished these small, shared moments. After a long day, coming home to find him already on the couch in his relaxed attire was like a reminder that there was always a place of calm waiting for me. Just sitting there beside him, both of us at ease, had a way of making all the day’s stresses fade away.

Even now, I find myself on quiet weekends at home, slipping into my own boxers and a top. It’s a habit that stayed with me, like a piece of our time together. In those moments, it’s as though he’s still there beside me, both of us embracing that little boxer bond, savoring the comfort of simplicity.


**look out for next blog on 8/11/2024

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Blog 22: The Family Campout on the Couch

It was a stormy night, with lightning flashing and thunder rumbling so close it seemed to shake the whole house. We were all upstairs in our rooms, just starting to settle in for the night, when suddenly everything went dark. A brief silence followed, then we all realized the power had gone out.

At first, we thought it might be a flicker, but a few minutes passed, and only the upstairs lights remained stubbornly off. My dad grabbed a flashlight, casting long, strange shadows as he moved down the hallway, while the rest of us fumbled for any source of light. After a quick check, he returned, casually announcing that the outage upstairs would last longer than expected. So, it seemed we would all be sleeping downstairs for the night.

A bit of grumbling followed, but there was something exciting about the idea too. We gathered pillows, blankets, and a few late-night snacks. My little sister grabbed her stuffed animal, refusing to part with it, while my mom quickly claimed the softest corner of the couch. Soon, the whole living room transformed into a cozy nest, with blankets layered on every surface we could find.

The storm continued outside, and the soft sound of rain tapping against the windows made it feel like we were tucked away in a little cabin. My dad settled in, starting to reminisce about other memorable storms we had been through together and recalling how we once spent a night in a power outage during a family vacation. My sister and I laughed, thinking of all the strange and funny moments we had.

After the stories, we all settled into our spots, finding room on couches, recliners, and even on the floor with the blankets piled high. The cramped quarters ended up more fun than expected. We shared quiet whispers and silly jokes, made shadow puppets on the walls with our flashlights, and tried to ignore the occasional loud snore from dad, who was sprawled out across the couch.

One by one, we drifted off to sleep, feeling warm and safe, the family all gathered together in one room. It might not have been the most comfortable night, but lying there close to one another, we knew it was one of those simple nights we would remember


**look out for my next blog on 10/11/2024

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Blog 23:Ants and Bali


It was a sweltering afternoon in Bali when I ventured into the rice fields near a village, hoping to witness rice harvesting up close. The green terraces stretched out under the sun, and the earthy smell of wet soil and frangipani filled the air. Slipping off my sandals, I walked carefully along the muddy paths, enjoying the cool, damp earth under my feet.

I knelt to examine a cluster of rice plants and gently started plucking grains from the stalks. Suddenly, a sharp sting shot up my ankle. Startled, I looked down to find tiny red ants crawling up my legs, each one biting with fierce determination. Panic took over as I tried to shake them off, hopping and swatting at my legs, but the ants clung on, biting with every movement. After a few frantic moments, I managed to scramble to the edge of the field, leaving the tiny invaders behind.

Back at our bungalow, my legs were throbbing, covered in red welts that burned and itched. Dad took one look at my swollen ankles and knew exactly what had happened. Without a word, he went to fetch a jar of his homemade ointment, a blend he made using aloe vera and natural oils. This was his go-to-remedy for insect bites, something he made countless times to help soothe stings and bites quickly.

Gently, he applied the ointment over each welt, the coolness immediately relieved the burning sensation. The aloe vera’s soothing properties combined with the natural oils made the bites feel less intense, and within minutes, the throbbing began to fade. Dad’s quick actions and his simple, effective remedy turned a painful experience into a lesson in patience and practical care.

The next morning, with the stings all but forgotten, we returned to the fields, this time carefully watching our steps. I stuck to the paths, admiring the beauty of the rice terraces from a safe distance. Collecting a few grains became a peaceful task as I stayed mindful of where I was walking, avoiding the bustling lines of tiny ants at work.

The whole experience had been an eye-opener. Even the smallest creatures can make a big impact if you’re not paying attention, and Dad’s natural remedy proved that sometimes the simplest solutions are the best. That day, I gained a deeper respect for both nature’s little defenders and Dad’s tried-and-true wisdom.

**look out for my next blog on 12/11/2024

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Blog 24:Spice Tolerance battle

One unforgettable night, my dad decided we were going to try a new Indian restaurant, famous for dishes that would make even the bravest diners break a sweat. I knew I couldn’t handle spice, but I went along with it, thinking, “How bad can it really be?”- famous last words.

As soon as we sat down, my dad, with his usual unshakable confidence, ordered the curries with a casual “medium spice.” I felt a pang of panic but figured it couldn’t be that extreme. The dishes arrived, and the smell was incredible—rich, aromatic, and inviting. I thought, “Maybe I’ve underestimated myself. Maybe tonight’s the night I conquer spice.”

With all the optimism in the world, I took my first bite. Instantly, my mouth was ablaze. I could feel the heat spreading from my tongue, and it felt like my whole face was on fire. My eyes watered, my nose started running, and I was desperately trying not to make a scene. My dad noticed me struggling and, with a barely concealed smirk, calmly took a bite of his own. “See?” he said, as if he just tasted a mild soup.

Meanwhile, I was in full meltdown mode. I downed my entire glass of water, but it didn’t help. I ordered another, and then another, hoping it would cool the fire. I muttered a few expletives under my breath, though with my mouth on fire, I could barely speak. My dad just chuckled and continued eating, looking completely unbothered by the inferno on his plate. “You’ll get used to it,” he said, with a shrug, like enduring this level of pain was just part of growing up.

The heat wasn’t subsiding. Each bite felt like I was taking a step deeper into some fiery abyss. Sweat trickled down my face, and I was starting to think that I wouldn’t survive this dinner. But my dad was still going strong, eating his curry with ease. He gave me this knowing look, like he found the whole thing hilarious, and that just made it worse.

After enduring what felt like hours, I finally admitted defeat. I pushed my plate away, waving a white flag. Dad laughed, saying that next time I would be able to handle it better. But I knew the truth: there wouldn’t be a next time. I rather stick to the mild side of life, leaving my dad to tackle spice levels I would never dare attempt again.

**look out for my next blog on 14/11/2024


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Blog 25:The Hidden Coins

As I was rummaging through my dad's closet one afternoon, I came across a handful of random coins scattered in a small drawer, half-hidden underneath a couple of old shirts. They weren’t stored in any special box or case, just loose coins that he probably tossed there over the years without much thought. They weren’t valuable or part of any collection; they were simply there because he hadn’t known what else to do with them. But something about finding those coins made me pause for a moment.

Each coin looked different, a mix of various currencies and dates, and while there was no real pattern to them, they felt like fragments of my dad’s everyday life. He had kept them here without any particular reason, yet discovering them felt like uncovering a small part of him that had been tucked away, just like those coins. I began to wonder about their stories. Had he pocketed them from past trips, or were they simply leftover change he had forgotten to spend? They seemed unimportant at first glance, but now, holding them, they felt oddly meaningful to me.

Without fully thinking it through, I took the coins in my hand and carried them over to my room. I decided to put them in my safe, alongside a few small valuables and keepsakes of my own. The coins themselves weren’t what mattered; it was the unexpected feeling they gave me—this tiny link to my dad’s quiet, everyday habits. Placing them in my safe was my way of preserving something of him, something that was part of his daily life yet that went unnoticed.

A few days later, he noticed they were missing from the drawer and asked if I had seen them. I explained that I put them in my safe, thinking it might be nice to keep them there, and he gave a soft chuckle. “Well, that’s one way to keep them secure,” he said, smilingly. He didn’t seem to mind that I had taken them; if anything, he seemed amused. For him, they were random bits of change without purpose. For me, though, they became a quiet reminder of him, locked away alongside my own memories and small treasures. In some ways, those coins became more valuable in that safe than they had ever been in his drawer, a silent memory I could hold onto whenever I needed a connection to him.


**look out for my next blog on 16/11/2024

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Blog 26: The Number I’ll Never Forget

One of my dad’s favorite lessons was making sure I had his phone number memorized. He insisted that I know it by heart, drilling it into my memory like it was the most important number in the world. At the time, I thought it was a little over-the-top. My mom was way more relaxed about things like that, figuring I’d remember if I needed to. But my dad wasn’t taking any chances.

I remember sitting at the kitchen table with him, a piece of paper in front of me with his number written in big, clear digits. He’d say the numbers slowly, one by one, having me repeat them until he was convinced they’d stuck. There was no escaping these sessions; he’d quiz me at random moments, sometimes when I least expected it. We’d be on the way to the store or just sitting in the living room watching TV, and out of nowhere, he’d ask, “What’s my number?” If I stumbled or forgot a digit, he’d shake his head, and we’d go over it again until I could rattle it off with confidence.

Sometimes, I’d grumble about it, asking him why he was so adamant about something so small. But he’d just give me a steady look, saying it was important to be able to reach him if I ever needed to. He was always calm about it, never raising his voice or getting frustrated, just persistent and steady. Over time, it became automatic. The number lodged itself in my memory so securely that I could recite it in my sleep.

Years later, I began to understand the comfort he’d intended to give me through this simple act. It wasn’t about the number; it was about giving me a sense of safety, knowing there was always someone I could reach out to, no matter where I was. That phone number became a lifeline in my mind—a symbol of the trust and security he had instilled in me.

Now, even with my phone always within reach, I’ll never forget his number. I still know it by heart, and I realize now that I probably always will. That small, seemingly tedious ritual became a reminder of how much he cared, of the way he wanted me to know, in the simplest way possible, that he’d always be there if I needed him.


**look out for my next blog on 18/11/2024

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Blog 27:The Silent Comfort

Every night had a familiar rhythm in our house, one that my dad and I had settled into without ever formally agreeing upon it. Bedtime routines were split down the middle: my mom would lie down beside my sister, tucking her in and keeping her company until she drifted off, while my dad would come to my room, making sure I was never left alone in those quiet hours before sleep.

Most nights, I would find him already stretched out on the floor, lying on his side with his head propped up on a pillow or resting on his arm. There was nothing special or ceremonial about it, but that simple presence carried more comfort than words could ever express. He would lie there, keeping me company, sometimes chatting softly about my day, asking how I was feeling, or letting me share the things on my mind. If I didn’t have much to say, he would stay anyway, silently sharing the room space.

The silence between us never felt uncomfortable. In fact, it was a part of the routine I came to treasure most. I would curl up in my bed while he lay on the floor, feeling the sense of ease that comes from knowing someone’s there, someone who doesn’t need you to say much. Some nights, I would try to stay awake longer, curious to see if he would still be there. Even if I managed to stay awake longer than usual, he always waited, patiently lingering until I truly began to nod off.

In his own unspoken way, my dad was telling me that he would be there as long as I needed. He didn’t need to tell me that he cared; his simple presence was more than enough. Those quiet nights became a safe haven, the comfort of knowing that even as sleep pulled me under, I wasn’t alone.

As I grew older, I realised how deeply those memories had rooted themselves in my mind. When I felt alone or uncertain, the memory of him lying on my floor comes back, reminding me that love doesn’t always need grand gestures. Sometimes, it’s as simple as lying down on a hard floor beside your child’s bed, being there in silence and watching with patience. In that unspoken love, I felt more secure than I ever had.


**look out for my next blog on 20/11/2024


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Blog 28: The Multiplication Drills

When I was young, my dad made it his mission to ensure I knew my multiplication tables backward and forward. For him, learning math was essential, and he approached it as if it were a rite of passage, a way to build both my skills and my discipline. So, each day, after I finished my homework, he would sit me down at the dining table, his old multiplication chart spread out in front of us.

With calm persistence, he would cover parts of the chart and quiz me on different tables, watching closely as I tried to recall each answer. If I stumbled, he would make me repeat the answer, over and over, until I could say it confidently. Sometimes, he would share a few tricks or shortcuts to help me remember tricky numbers, but mostly, it was repetition—no shortcuts, just practice. Every evening, this routine continued until I was able to go through the tables without a pause.

He kept things unpredictable, quizzing me at random times, too. In the car or at a restaurant, he would ask me for quick answers to problems, like seven times eight or six times nine. If I answered correctly, he would simply nod, as if acknowledging my progress; if I missed, we had to go over it again later.

At the time, I found it exhausting, maybe even a little unfair. But looking back, I realize he believed in my ability to master it, showing me that confidence wasn’t handed over effortlessly; it was earned through practice and persistence. Slowly, the tables became second nature. What started as a daily challenge turned into an automatic reflex.

Now, as I look back on those evenings, I see what he was really teaching me. It wasn’t just about math or memorizing numbers—it was about understanding the value of effort and patience. He wanted me to learn that some things require work, that repetition isn’t always exciting but builds a strong foundation. Even now, when I calculate something in my head with ease, I think of those multiplication drills, a reminder of his quiet lessons in perseverance and the steady discipline he instilled, one number at a time.


**look out for my next blog on 22/11/2024

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Blog 29: The Game That Never Happened

Playing Call of Duty was something I always wanted to experience, a dream that seemed just out of reach. I often imagine it: the excitement of missions, the strategies, and the rush of teaming up with others in intense battles. But without a PS4 or gaming PC, it was just a distant idea. I caught glimpses of gameplay videos whenever I could, getting lost in the action on the screen and picturing myself right there in the thick of it.

One day, my dad noticed me watching a video of COD on my phone. He asked me about it, and I told him all about the game—the action, the teamwork, the thrill of every mission. He listened more intently than I had expected, nodding along and asking questions. For a moment, I let myself think that maybe he was intrigued, maybe even considering giving it a try with me one day.

We talked about it here and there, sharing little laughs about how he would probably struggle with the controls. But I could tell he was genuinely interested. He seemed to enjoy listening to my passion, seeing how animated I got when I described the different game modes and strategies. I even showed him how you could pick your weapons and plan your approach to each mission.

Even though we never got the chance to actually play together, those conversations meant a lot. Talking about COD with him was like having a small piece of the game itself. He may not have fully understood the thrill, but he was happy to let me share it with him. Looking back, I think he appreciated the way it brought us closer, even without the console or the controls in our hands.

I still imagine what it would’ve been like to play a game or two with him. Maybe we would stumble through the first few rounds, laugh at our own mistakes, and eventually find our rhythm as a team. Even if it never happened, I’ll always hold onto those small moments—those shared conversations about a game that he knew I cared about and that, in a small way, brought us together in a world of imagination and possibilities.


**look out for my next blog on 24/11/2024

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    MYR 50 11/22/2024 08:20:25 AM UTC

  • Anonymous

    MYR 10 11/22/2024 06:51:24 AM UTC

  • Celeste

    Dear Yao Sern You may not know me but I’ve learnt about you and your father. It’s so sad what happened to him and you are doing a really amazing job of writing this vlog I’m sure your father would be really proud of you. You are so inspirational. Love Celeste

    MYR 75 11/19/2024 12:59:28 PM UTC

  • Anonymous

    The body is a shell...your dad lives in you. Remember the values he has taught you, the memories created and the lessons learnt together. All the Best! This is the first of the many steps you have taken...well done!

    MYR 1,000 11/19/2024 12:46:55 AM UTC

  • Kelly Pang

    MYR 300 11/18/2024 01:52:32 PM UTC

  • Lee Ming Seow

    Well done Yao Sern for the beautiful memories of Chin Teik and for a good cause too. Keep it up!! 👍🏻👍🏻

    MYR 500 11/18/2024 04:55:03 AM UTC

  • JC

    MYR 25 11/17/2024 12:16:13 PM UTC

  • Yi Peng Chong

    MYR 300 11/17/2024 12:07:25 PM UTC

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